The Divorced Christian Woman

If you are a divorced Christian woman, then you might be seen as damaged, unworthy, or inadequate. Others might think that it is your fault and if only you had "(fill in the blank here)" then your marriage would have worked. You may be seen as less fit to serve Christ and His church.

Let's say the divorce is your fault. You are fully responsible for the end of the covenant with your husband (this is almost never the case). Okay, that would make it sin. Scripture tells us that when we ask for forgiveness He is faithful to forgive us. If God forgives you, you have no right to hold it against yourself and neither does anyone else. When forgiven, the sin no longer exists. You can let it go.

If it was mostly your husband's fault, you may feel deeply betrayed, abandoned, alone. You may have much to forgive him for and you are commanded to forgive. Transfer his debt to Christ. He then no longer owes you anything.

In either case, you need to heal. You need to grieve. You need to learn to undo the way you related that led to the divorce (your part) and become healthy in every way.

You might need to take time to do this. You might need to jump in and serve. It is hard to give what you do not have so make sure the Lord is restoring you so that you have resources of heart to share.

Know that you are loved, chosen, forgiven, a child of the Holy One. Even if the sin was yours it is level ground at the foot of the cross. There is no one better or worse than you there. We all needed a Savior and we all have hurt and been hurt. Do not let anyone treat you as if they stand above you at the cross. If they do that is their sin of judgment.

If you have children you have a Father who has not abandoned them. You have a bridegroom who loves you. You have a God who still has plans for your life for good.

It would be an encouragement to hear your story. Just click this link to go to a page where you can write your story for us to read.

I'd love to read yours.