Boundaries Define Your Life
They are a property line of sorts. Others can do what they want on their property but not on yours.
Once set, no one gets to redefine these parameters except you and the Lord.
Christ knew who and why He was and was unmoveable
He is our example of staying true to oneself.
Learn to set your own boundaries
In essence, what would Christ do or not do in your shoes? Define that and now all you have to do is put your boundaries around it.
When you know what you want and don't want in your life (your borders) then it is easy to say "yes" to what fits and "no" to what does not so that you can pursue the Lord's plan for your life.
With this in place you will stop letting others step on your toes and push you into doing what does not fit for you. AND you will be able to do this without guilt.
You will find that people don't like not being able to tell others what to do. As you start to take back control of your life ("No, I am not available to work in the nursery this week, thank you.") you will find that they will use tactics to push through your personal paramenters.
We drop our guard and our boundaries and allow ourselves to be pressured and manipulated when we are not sure it is okay to have our own life.
Here's an example
guilt "But, I don't have anyone else to volunteer on Sunday."
(repeat your boundary) "I hear that you are having a difficult time finding someone, I won't be available this Sunday."
demanding an explanation "What are doing that is more important that this?"
anger "Now what am I supposed to do?"
whining "This is such a hard job"
martyrdom "I guess I will just have to do it myself."
This is just a sampling of manipulation, there are many, many other tactics. Just keep stating that you hear their problem and keep restating your boundary with every tactic.
Without boundaries you will limit God's plan for you
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